Can your relationship survive infidelity? Is it worth it to try?
• Are you feeling shattered after discovering your partner’s affair?
• Or did you have an affair, and you’re desperately trying to save the relationship?
• Are strong emotions overwhelming you, making it nearly impossible to discuss the infidelity?
If you’ve just discovered your spouse is having an affair, you may be in the most excruciating pain of your life. Affair Recovery Counseling can help. Rage, hurt, disbelief, and confusion are all things people feel after learning of infidelity. The discovery of infidelity is a traumatic event, and the trauma will impact your emotional, psychological, and physiological functioning.
Infidelity recovery
Despite your overwhelming emotions, affair recovery is possible. The willingness of partners to address the pain of infidelity and do the work of healing makes a big difference in outcomes. Guidance from a professional therapist can lead the way in an otherwise chaotic situation. Recovery is possible.
The therapeutic process
There are typically three stages of infidelity recovery. Affair recovery therapy can guide you through the stages of healing.
1. Crisis and stabilization
2. Grief and Deeper Understandings
3. New Vision for the Relationship
Affair Recovery Counseling Promotes Healing
Couples need a neutral place to talk and share hurt and anger constructively. Partners must grieve the relationship as it was and create a plan for building a new, trustworthy relationship. Affair recovery counseling creates space and offers structure to promote healing.
Infidelity is a highly sensitive subject. You are welcome to call me for a free fifteen-minute consultation to see if affair recovery counseling is right for you.
You may still have more questions…
Why Meg Luce, LMFT?
I have extensive experience and training working with relationship issues of all kinds. It is my passion to help struggling couples restore the happiness and vitality they are longing for.
Will talking about the affair do more damage?
It may feel scary to discuss the affair with your partner. This is understandable. There are ways to talk about infidelity while protecting the relationship. Affair recovery therapy offers guidance in doing so.
Will I be blamed in Affair Recovery Counseling?
The goal of infidelity therapy is to move through the phases of affair recovery from a constructive perspective. Healing from an affair is painful, and listening to your partner’s hurts can be challenging. Therapy will support the unfaithful partner in the ability to listen to the hurt partner. This is a part of healing the relationship.
I’m not sure if I want to stay with my spouse
Sometimes, a couple doesn’t know if they want to stay together after an affair is discovered. It’s okay not to know. It is often necessary to talk things through before deciding on the best course of action.
Should we attend sessions together or separately?
Every situation is different, and you may not know if you want individual or couples therapy. If you’re not sure about the next best steps, you are welcome to call me for a free fifteen-minute consultation to discuss a path forward. You don’t have to go through this alone.
We live in a small town, and I want to keep this private
Therapists are legally and ethically bound to protect your privacy with few exceptions. Here is an article from the American Psychological Association with detailed information describing the laws and ethics regarding confidentiality. This information applies to psychologists and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists, which is my license.
What if the cheating was an emotional affair?
If your partner went outside the bounds of your relationship, even if it wasn’t sexual, it is a breach of trust. The longer emotional affairs go on, the more chance that they may become sexual affairs. It’s essential to address the issue. Infidelity counseling can help a couple define together what the parameters are for protecting the relationship.
Is it really possible to rebuild trust after an affair?
Yes, it is absolutely possible to rebuild trust after infidelity. It’s never too late to heal your relationship. Affair Recovery Counseling can help you learn to move forward in your marriage and be very happy for years to come.
Please call Meg Luce, LMFT with your questions or book an appointment.
